My
daughter was talking to me about a senior of hers from school whose parents had
divorced and who lived with his mother. Apparently
his mother travelled abroad a lot and he was alone for long periods of time. Curious,
I asked her what his mother did for a living.
I
then offered to tell her another story – about a friend of mine who is also
divorced and living with a son about the same age. My friend is a Ph.D and working at a reputed Indian university. Her
son is a brilliant student and keen on studying abroad in an American
University. But foreign education as we all know is very expensive especially
at the undergraduate level as there are almost no scholarships available to foreign
students. The father of this boy is very well to do. However he is very non
committal about supporting his son’s education abroad. I told my daughter about the mother’s dilemma
- how was she going to raise the money to support
the boy’s education abroad? She has
been planning to sell the house she lives in to finance his studies.
My
little young lady was shocked!! “But how can that be? Why can’t the father
support his son? Can’t the courts make him support the boy’s education” she
asked indignantly. I had to explain to her that in the Indian context, family
law was very different. While divorced women were entitled to “maintenance” there was no clear stipulation about the amount
and what were the further financial commitments involving children in this regard. A lot of
men got away with paying nothing to their ex wives. There went crashing down, my daughter’s image
of a glamorous ex wife from “Desperate housewives” !
While
a school girl’s ignorance about this is excusable, I have been thinking about
how little all of us, even adults, seem to know about our laws though we are very
vociferous about having a uniform civil code! However, few of us would admit to
knowing so little. I don’t think it is embarrassment that holds us back but ignorance about our
own ignorance. We seem to think we know enough but actually it is not so.
The
Indian legal system is a legacy of the colonial times. It has some antiquated
laws yet, some very progressive ones. For
instance, if you take the law on Bigamy - any man who is married to two women
at the same time is said to have committed Bigamy and his second relationship
does not have any legal sanction. Our Indian laws however, give children born
out of wedlock rights on all property that is earned by the father/ mother (
not inherited property) as the law believes that children are not responsible
for their parent’s actions.
But
it is appalling how our films and TV serials interpret the law! It is almost as though the law is put in to
justify the plot and not vice versa . For e.g in a Bigamy situation, the teary
eyed first wife is made to sign a legal document that is supposed to be giving
her husband “permission” to marry a second time. Such portrayals make many people in India think
that a man may marry a second time if his first wife permits him to. This is actually
rubbish!! What that legal document the first wife in a film or a serial is made
to sign is in essence a “No objection “ document because if at all anyone can
take the man to task legally for marrying a second time it is Wife no 1 !!. The
document is only a safeguard against such a future action. Similarly no abandoned children of a man can
be denied any part of the property earned by him !
I don’t know if there is some way by which
legal action can be brought against the makers of such films/serials for
presenting the law wrongly. But in a country that has a lot of more serious
legal transgressions, I guess this is trivial!

Despite
the fact that the US is a more litigious society than ours, we still cannot
deny that we would not need the legal system at some point in our lives. So,
how prepared are we for that? A court room scene with a black robed judge
shouting “Order order” or a loud mouthed lawyer shouting “Objection milord” is not sufficient. We need to know why
the judge let out the hero saying “Ba izzat bari kiya jata hai” before we
see “THE END” flashing on the screen with the title song playing in the
background.
Well you are right about “Erin Brocovich”. Not many in India . Or are there any in Indian movies?
ReplyDeleteMovies about the segregation era in the USA are many and many are of immense public interest and value.
I feel that the matters of law are skewed against women here , though it may be changing. I mean when it comes to the clash of personal laws and the civil code.
Remember the litigation Mary Roy ( Arundati Roy's ) mother won against the archaic Christian succession law. And the commotion and outrage expressed by the church leaders against the Supreme Court's ruling?
Often men get the upper hand.
The portrayal of women in TV serials are ridiculous. Most women display dumbness and meekness in these TV serials that often it is disgusting. The ridiculous part is it is women who watch and are spellbound by such operas .
Nice post. Loved reading it.
ReplyDeleteIn USA, the parents have legal obligation to support a child (education, food, stay at home) only up to the child reaching 18 years of age. After that parents have no legal obligation to support the kid.
There are some good laws that India can implement from USA. In India, thousands of cases are still pending because powerful people/lawyers get “postponement” of hearing several times for several years. That is not the case in USA. Judge will very rarely grant a postponement. If you and your lawyer is not in the court, the case will be decided based on what the opposite party says. That should be implemented in India.
The movies and TVs in India are ridiculous. I am always pissed off at the scene where the accused is in the court. The judge asks him is there anyone to represent you. The accused says I don’t have anyone. Then comes in the court some important lawyer character and declares “I am here your honor to defend him”. It does not happen in real life. The judge won’t allow that.
Another one is the father is the judge and son is the accused. Pure rubbish.
@SG India does have a lot of good legislation but the way the law drags its feet here is not funny!!! And what is urgently required is legal literacy so that we are not at the mercy of some useless lawyers whose entire careers consist only of "adjournment". The scenes you mentioned make me shudder!! Yet they are all part of every other Indian pot boiler. And yes, how about scenes where the accused makes a long speech - probably longer than the judgement!!
ReplyDelete@Anil the issue is not about the law being against women because I firmly believe that our country has a progressive legal system that has women's welfare at heart. But the way the law is understood is very warped. Women watch whatever comes on tv and if it is shit like this that the TV feeds them they learn to consume it!
ReplyDeleteIndeed, Meera. A number of Indian laws are so outdated. We blame the British, but Britain herself has changed such laws, while we still stick to the old ones. I am not able to recall exactly which ones they are.
ReplyDeleteOne more thing I hate is people in India using the word “prejudice” for their convenience. I cannot discuss because it is prejudice. It is the right word where there is a jury trial. These juries are innocent people and they will form opinion (good or bad) about the case by reading newspaper, or listening to radio or watching TV. Then if they are selected, they had already formed their opinion.
ReplyDeleteThere is no prejudice when there is no jury and the judge decides the case. Generally, a judge will not form an opinion this way or that way by reading the newspaper. (Exception: Judges who accept bribes.)
@ SG I agree we use the word prejudice very loosely. I also find that ethics are easily compromised in our legal system. Lawyers ( and also doctors) merrily gossip and share information about clients/ patients with all and sundry. Whatever happened to confidentiality? Anyway with the new breed of legal professionals coming out of the National Law Schools ( which have strict entrance exams etc) we may have better legal professionals in our country. Hopefully they will also fast track the cases which at the moment move at a snail's pace
ReplyDelete@ Pradeep, you are right. We hold on British things that the Brits themselves have thrown out!!!
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