All that I seem to be hearing about these days is the royal wedding ( Osama’s death notwithstanding!). What Kate wore, the cars, the bridesmaids dresses and not to mention the outlandish head gear of some of the ladies among the guests. I remember over three decades ago – another wedding in the same family – a lovely nineteen year old girl marrying a prince twice her age. That was my first exposure to a wedding of this magnitude. We did not have televisions those days relaying the program live and neither was there internet. But somehow the magazines managed to convey enough through the lovely colour pictures! Like the teenager that I was, I felt that this is what fairy tales are all made up of….! So, it was very difficult to accept it when this “golden couple” broke up!
What was a novelty those days however seems to be something very common now- both the grand weddings as well as the break ups. Liz Hurley and Arun Nayyar being another much publicised marriage that broke up. Not sure what is the status of the other famous weddings – Aish- Abhishek, Shipa Shetty and … Raj Kundra….????
Now each time there is a marriage of this proportion I almost keep my fingers crossed….!
However, the interesting thing is that these kinds of weddings are nowadays not restricted to people of celebrity status alone. I have myself attended weddings which are nothing short of “productions”!! I am told these days people almost expect that weddings WOULD be like this! There are huge numbers of people who earn their livelihoods on these “productions”- wedding planners, artists, florists, cooks, invitation makers et al! ( BTW there are wedding planners who are ISO certified says an article!!!)
I often wonder what happens to these couples? Are they still married to each other? Sadly the answer is not always“yes”.
Since marriages these days have a lot of pressures on account of our life style and the expectations that couples have of each other, I cannot understand why people would invest so much on a ceremony which we are not sure is actually “sealing” a relationship for life!
I remember my mother’s first reaction when I told her about the divorce of a girl whose marriage we had attended- “Oh my god. After all that expenditure…!”she sighed. I am also inclined to think like that. While I agree that we should not begin a relationship thinking it would break I cant understand these “ over the top” celebrations.
Given the fact that the weddings are more by way of “productions” the bride and groom along with the other family members seem to suddenly start playing a part in the show with expensive props. So what we have is a lot of “form” which sadly does not get translated into “substance”. However the issue is how much are we willing to invest in that form? Afterall this is life and not some Yash Chopra film….!
And true love in itself is a celebration. It does not require all these props.