Thursday, February 27, 2014 7 comments

NOT SO SWEET




I was looking through you tube the other day  when I stumbled on a lovely number from  “ The Sound of Music”  which I am sure all of us are familiar with “ You are sixteen going on seventeen”.  While the song itself is lovely ,what I like about it  is  the way it celebrates the pleasure of the young couple poised on the brink of adulthood.  It is not without reason I guess why people refer to the age sixteen as “Sweet Sixteen”.

Our Indian movies also have loads of songs about the age sixteen. In fact, it is not just songs but entire movies which are about this so called “young love”.  “Padinaru Vayadinile”  in Tamil, “ Solva Sawan” its Hindi remake being some examples.  You might remember songs about the age sixteen “ Sola baras ki bali umar ko salam” – that haunting melody from the movie “ Ek Duje Ke liye” was  on every one’s lips as was another earlier number   “ Main solah baras ki”.

While not disputing the happiness of sixteen year olds in discovering life and themselves,  I have  some discomfort about the way a girl who is supposedly sixteen is portrayed in of our Indian movies.   

For starters, most of the heroines who  play the role of  girls singing songs about being sixteen on screen are probably double that age!  Saira Bano,  Hema Malini etc were well into their thirties when they played sixteen.  There were some who were probably a bit younger than them  ( like Tina Munium when she sang “ Main Solah Bara ski” on screen) but nowhere  were they sixteen!! Film makers however, trudged  along , making a parody of these ladies trying to get them to dress and behave in silly ways. 

It was not until the release of  “Bobby” that teenage love hit the spot light.  And it was in this movie probably for the first time, that both the hero and the heroine were actually teenagers.  This movie went on to become some sort of legend in Indian cinema running as it did for months at various cinema theatres. The hero Rishi Kapoor  became a star while the heroine Dimple Kapadia married  reigning superstar Rajesh Khanna and  slipped into oblivion becoming a star wife and staying that way until the 80s when she reappeared on screen as a mature woman.

I was too young at the time Bobby was released to even remember seeing it. I watched it again when I was in college. It seemed rather silly and I wondered how the couple   could live “happily ever after” balancing their education  and married lives ( remember in that movie the hero is introduced  in a song after he is supposed to have completed his  school leaving exam !. So the heroine was probably still in school). I also wondered which girl in the 1970s in India dressed  in the clothes that Dimple wore- micro shorts  with a barred waist  and a knotted blouse with a plunging neckline.   I realize now that costumes in Indian movies are only an excuse to show off parts of the heroine’s body- in this case  a sixteen year old’s! Raj Kapoor was particularly notorious  when it came to exploiting his heroine’s sexuality on screen. He did it with Zeenat in “ Satyam Shivam Sundaram” ,  Padmini  and Simi in “ Mera Naam Joker” Mandakini in “ Ram Teri Ganga Maili”. If you remember both these movies, it looked like he had created situations where his camera could rove over a woman’s body.  But then it was a career choice for established actors like Zeenat, Simi or Padmini  whether to reveal or not.  They were adults and probably knew what  they were doing.  But in the case of Dimple and Mandakini I am not so sure.  I think they were exploited by his lens and aided in the process by their parents who did nothing to protest.

This  makes me reflect about ourselves as a society. We love watching movies where the heroines are shown to be sixteen. We like to see them scantily dressed and  ogle at their bodies.  But have we ever thought about  the fact that a sixteen year old actually has one foot in her childhood? It is not without reason that the age of marriage  for girls is eighteen!  Yes, it was  just a couple of  generations ago that women were getting married at fifteen  and sixteen. But the maternal mortality figures were sufficient indication to anyone to understand as to why it was wrong!   Every practice is rooted in time. People believed at one time that a woman had to be burnt with her dead husband on his funeral pyre. But as society evolved this custom was challenged and abolished. 

Someone once told me “ A sixteen year old is beautiful. So it is not a sin to appreciate her fresh youth” .  Yes, a sixteen year old girl is beautiful!  Her beauty and sexuality are just beginning to express themselves.  She straddles the worlds of both adulthood and childhood. She may appear to be an adult but is mentally and emotionally a child. It is natural for a teenage boy who is also part adult- part child to feel attracted to her. A teenage romance is usually nothing more than the hormones expressing themselves. All these relationships come with an expiry date. Yet, they shape the person in terms of their confidence and ability to relate to the opposite sex.

But coming back to the image of “Sweet sixteen” Bobby style images  that is portrayed in our films. Who is the consumer? Is it only targeted at teenagers?  I don’t think so. I think a large part of the audience would be grown men with families. The insecure Indian male probably feels more confident fantasizing about this sixteen year old child.  A teenage romance is just an excuse to feed this fantasy.

There are very few Indian films which explore teen age as it actually is. I think “ Padinaru Vayadinile” tried to do that! It showed the heroine’s infatuation with an older man and how he takes advantage of it. “Balika Badhu”, a  movie about a teenage bride and her growing attachment to her young husband tried to explore it but as a concept it was set in a different period of our history which is not very relevant now. But I appreciate the fact that the director did not resort to the RK tricks ( he could have very well done so. After all the couple in the movie were supposed to be married! ) 

Portrayal of love and beauty on screen needs to be done is a sensitive manner. Like the dark side of the moon, lust can also masquerade as love and as far as the audience is concerned what they might delude themselves into thinking as “appreciating the aesthetic” might be nothing but an indulgence in voyeurism!

There are few things to commend today’s Indian films about, given the violence, gore and the sex! But  there is a small change that I see in terms of portrayal of the heroine. No longer is she supposed to be sixteen. She is older and more in control of her sexuality.  Yes it certainly provides scope for more sexually explicit scenes but at least one is relieved that it is not some poor sixteen year old whose body is being exposed in the name of showing some “teenage love”. Actually, that genre of films have probably stopped hitting the screen!


I guess, it is has a lot to do with the changing mores of our society where teenage relationships have become something more matter of fact and “to be accepted” issues.  Or may be with the passing away of film makers like Raj Kapoor the fuel to feed the imagination of “dirty old men” is no longer there. Those guys are probably  undergoing an internal struggle now trying to fantasize about these confident and sexy women on screen today … of which one is the late RK’s own grand daughter!

Sunday, February 23, 2014 9 comments

AS YOU LIKE IT



After a post on the language of silence, I am now ready to discuss a new language . If you are wondering what this is all about, then you are definitely not a facebook user! 

Facebook ( for the uninitiated) has an option that is called “LIKE”. And strangely, the opposite of this word is not “DISLIKE” but “ UNLIKE”!  I wonder what Wren and Martin would have to say about this! 
 
Now let us get to discussing the use of this four letter word ( oops!!), When does a person hit the “LIKE” button?

From my observations I can think of  the following few categories  “LIKE”  usage

Category 1  :Those who just mechanically tick this option. I am told it is supposed to mean “ I have read your post” or “ I acknowledge what you have written” . But again, it could well mean “ Hey I was here. I logged on to FB today!”  Such  random acts often result in people “liking” messages about someone’s death / illness or  unhappiness! 

Category 2 : Now this is the  group of people who in Hindi are called “Chamchas” !! They follow their boss around on Facebook, hitting “like” on every post s/he writes.  This is a very competitive group. You see, there may be at least four or five in a team who might be doing this. So  it all depends on how quickly one hits the “like” button. If you happen to  have a phone like mine.. you will never get your boss’s attention on social media! Your thumb could well be bruised but that “like” icon would refuse to come on. I have often wondered if  bosses are noticing and rewarding this behavior? But then what is the harm in trying? 

Category 3 : This an extension of Category 2. Here, one is not impressing the boss but someone else- your object of desire! If you spot someone  whose attention you want , keep hitting “like” on everything s/he posts. Ultimately  you will be rewarded with a like on your posts .. and if you are lucky, it could help you take the relationship to the next level. This option works well if  one is using it on photographs.  It is equivalent to telling the person “ Oh you look so nice” ( tells the person you are a man/ woman of subtlety. You know, not brash) .  

Category 4 : This is a unique category. It is only applicable to profile pictures. The moment you change your profile picture, everyone on your friend list hits “like” – never mind that the changed photograph may not be an improvement on the previous one. People have begun to expect it.  If you give a frank opinion on a photograph (even in a private message) they get upset. So the moral of the story here is – If you can’t “like”  then  shut up!

Category 5 : This is a category of people like me who don’t like their inboxes being cluttered with notifications from unknown people.  Let me explain.  There are some people who you do not know very well. In case you leave a casual comment  on something that you have seen on their wall, you will be likely to have notifications in your in box from people you hardly know! I use this option when I am unable to find the “ stop notification”/ “ untag “ option against the post. 

Category 6 : This is a complicated category. It  consists of those engaged in  playing what I call "mind games" . It is particularly effective  if you are a chronic “like” user. For e.g  If you are annoyed with someone,  you stop hitting “like”  to make your annoyance known. And if you want to take the hostility to the next level, you wait for this person ( yes the one you are annoyed with) to  have a debate / discussion on some  topic with another person ( who may or may not be on your friend list). You hit “ like”  for everything that the other person says and completely ignore this pest you are annoyed with.  But this kind of pigheadedness ( there is no other word for it) is not without its social dangers. It  can actually make you hit “like” for many things you may not even like or subscribe to ( porn, voyeurism, pedophilia, etc being some examples). We sometimes forget that the virtual world is not exactly our living room with just  the debaters and one spectator. There are others who are watching and forming opinions about us based on what we write or click!

Category 7 : This is the category that a large number of “like” users probably belong to. They are a sub group in Category 1. They are people with no opinions about anything. Sometimes they might have opinions but might not have the confidence to express them publicly. It is also possible that they might not be interested in stirring up a controversy by stating what they feel.  So they do what they think is the safest thing  – hit “like”!
Phew…!! When I started out writing this post, I never realized that I would come up with 7 categories. But I like the number 7. My friend tells me that any list with an odd number gets people’s attention. Some psychologist is supposed to have done a study on that..!! 
But odd or even
Whatever be the reason,
Though one can always “like” or “unlike
This “thumbs up” sign  continues to pose a challenge

( PS:  Subsequent to posting a link of this blog on face book a friend suggested two more categories 

Category 8- Those who dose at the computer or are inept at using their mouse properly. So the "LIKE" icon comes in through a slipped mouse

Category 9: Sloshed and using facebook in that condition )




 
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