tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post8350198809242724442..comments2023-06-28T20:33:55.060+05:30Comments on Chronicles of an Unknown Indian: WHEN THREE IS A CROWDMeera Sundararajanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-37749513121341398952013-04-30T10:40:15.510+05:302013-04-30T10:40:15.510+05:30Hmmm...many things come into my mind..
1. Yes, a...Hmmm...many things come into my mind..<br /><br />1. Yes, after few years the married woman is so very bogged down with her motherhood, she hardly even takes care of her health, leave alone taking care of external beauty and she is no more the glam doll the husband married.<br /><br />2. And even at this age, the hormones men have, are playing its trick too.<br /><br />3. Agree, both men and women can go astray..and these days with the accessibility through Internets, it may not be surprising if old flames are re-kindled.<br /><br />4. The OTHER WOMAN is not a 'husband hunter' always; she may be actually loving the man dearly and yet living with the bitter truth that the married man will never leave the wife, hardly they would. I remember a dialogue from a play about extra-marital relation. A friend of the 'OTHER WOMAN' told her, You loved the right man but in wrong time.<br /><br />5. Fidelity and Loyalty. Hmmm...a product of a Patriarchal Society, as said in a book I am recently reading. We should be loyal to our bosses, we need to be loyal to marriage. A phenomenon of a Patriarchal Society is having a control over the tools of production and (re)production. Thus even if society may accept a polygamous man, it will loathe an so called 'ASTRAY' woman, she should be loyal to her marital home.<br /><br />6. No, I am NOT advocating EXTRA MARITAL relation. Any institution will survive only when the participants/ members are committed. <br /><br />7. I am sorry if I hurt anyone's sentiment...aninditahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05844592244486340198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-46077732466708444842013-04-27T22:41:01.039+05:302013-04-27T22:41:01.039+05:30This was a wonderful movie and all three gave thei...This was a wonderful movie and all three gave their best. <br />As for some girls sticking on to some rotten guys.... well its something that still baffles me.Haddockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11573906991666088642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-31955879562696883172013-04-21T10:46:36.966+05:302013-04-21T10:46:36.966+05:30Anil, your last sentence sums it up well- Promiscu...Anil, your last sentence sums it up well- Promiscuity is not a gender specific trait. Both men and women can "stray" but men tend to do it less as the constraints on them are less. And about men being more sexually oreinted. I would dispute that because women are just socially conditioned to deny anything that is physical- whether it is a desire to go to the toilet or for sexual release!Meera Sundararajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-28100186863681118202013-04-21T10:43:56.890+05:302013-04-21T10:43:56.890+05:30LoL Divya, i had never thought of that - a single ...LoL Divya, i had never thought of that - a single man can impregnate about 100 women in one day.. So for drastic population control measures, one should do away with men ( joking). I think what makes a relationship risky is a lack of commitment to make it work! Meera Sundararajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-89595362910876689822013-04-21T04:01:48.749+05:302013-04-21T04:01:48.749+05:30On men being polygamous - it is actually true even...On men being polygamous - it is actually true even according to genetics :P <br />The woman's body releases only one egg in a month - so woman by nature is monogamous...<br />A man releases millions of sperms in a week - he is polygamous by nature...<br /><br />But yes, having the other woman in your life can be quite a nightmare! Being the other woman is equally frustrating...I feel all relationships work as long as the two people who are involved desire to be together - there may be moments of weaknesses but if the marriage is strong, I do not see how a one-night-stand would actually manifest into a full-blown affair..Divyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07478829599969479017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-85263742794196686332013-04-20T11:48:08.326+05:302013-04-20T11:48:08.326+05:30Meera, this is a fascinating topic. And I guess on...Meera, this is a fascinating topic. And I guess one can debate and discuss till kingdom come.<br />You are right when you say that it is the social order that gives man the edge and the raison d'être to be polygamous if he chooses. And social strictures, conventions and inhibitions restrain women from being amorous like men can be. I feel, with the economic empowerment and the casting away of social taboo in another few decades, one may see women being more courageous in such misdemeanors and adventures as men are now. <br />Biologically women choose and they choose the best and the safest. It is as we know that women may not be sexually disposed anywhere anytime as men can be. Typical animal like still men are!<br />But the “other woman” proverbially and in real time has been the villain of the piece. There is nothing called fairy tale living, it is a mirage and a fairy tale as fairy tales are. This I think is also with extra-marital affair. Don’t you think so? The sheen will certainly be lost. It is how we cope with that reality bombardment that is fatal to a future life.<br />Promiscuity necessarily need not be because of discontentment alone. Both men and women are adept in that and only that men are as for obvious reason I mentioned more audacious and indulgent.<br />anilkurup59https://www.blogger.com/profile/07961961217418715354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-78629155694924332582013-04-19T21:00:29.990+05:302013-04-19T21:00:29.990+05:30Yes KP, it is a new world today where self gratifi...Yes KP, it is a new world today where self gratification is the norm. So when one relationship does not satisfy you ( in whichever way) they do what is called "move on" !<br /><br />@ SG, I am not in complete agreement with you about men wanting submissive wives. Men want a lot of things from their wives ( it is a long wish list) and then they get tired of what they have got and start looking for something / someone else. Yes, women are also guilty of this but in terms of numbers I think men do this more. Meera Sundararajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15584671517551652378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-91120499463367691062013-04-19T09:47:11.861+05:302013-04-19T09:47:11.861+05:30Like it or not. Majority of men want their wives ...Like it or not. Majority of men want their wives to be submissive. Wife becomes not so submissive after a few years of marriage. Becomes nagging and yelling type. Then comes a woman who pretends to be submissive to attract this married guy. He does not know she will also be nagging and yelling in a few years.<br /><br />Also, I get the feeling you wrote as if only men are guilty. I can give you a few stories about the other side where a woman has become more “adventurous”.<br />SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7269219202790509435.post-20619542830672832882013-04-19T09:26:11.478+05:302013-04-19T09:26:11.478+05:30For every married man who goes astray,there is a w...For every married man who goes astray,there is a woman,married or otherwise involved.We are not talking about paid sex here.The cheating is prevalent in both genders while the betraying women keep it discreet and under wraps unlike some men.I agree with you that women are more cautious and vulnerable than men in such matters.<br />But a good wife is shattered when she learns the deception of her husband especially when she is middle aged and has children and not in a position to walk out like men in similar circumstances.<br />From what we read in dailies,the incidence among younger people is on the rise and many affected suffer in silence.KParthasarathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189924874350906456noreply@blogger.com